You may have visions of John Wayne, or Clint Eastwood riding high on their horses. Muscle bound Arnold Schwarzenegger, or Sylvester Stallone blazing down bad guys with machine guns. Maybe the suave Johnny Depp, or the outcome independent & ultra-sophisticated Sean Connery as James Bond. But what do all these men have in common? What specific traits make them ALPHA?
Let’s take a closer look.
From the bold & strong, to the suave & debonair, all Alpha Males share one core common characteristic. It’s not plainly obvious at first glance, but it’s there. And, it’s the single thing that sets us above the rest of the male population.
That trait is simply doing what you want to do, when you want to do it.
Or more accurately, being able to do what you want to do in the face of any social pressures to do otherwise. Of course, this is much easier to pull off in the movies than it is in real life, but (within the confines of the law & normal human decency) it is entirely possible.
So, how do we begin the process? Well, first of all, we need to figure out what we want. This shouldn’t be as complicated as we make it. Honestly, very few men even put any thought at all into this. Since I’m a man, I feel I’m more than qualified to make a few assumptions about what you want. Let me help you a bit.
Of course the list isn’t all inclusive, but if you’re life is lacking in any of these areas, you’re going to be hard pressed to accomplish any life goals of any deeper spiritual meaning.
We’ll take these by line item, and you’ll get a better understanding of exactly what I’m talking about.
You make it your goal to be able to have sex at least a couple times per week without having to give up your freedom to a woman (or anyone else). So, you’re going to have to find a couple of fuck buddies. If this is truly your goal, are you going to give a shit what your friends think?
Are you going to be worried or anxious to go out & start talking to women? Are you going to “give up” after being turned down a few times asking a woman for drinks? Are you going to hang out in your basement jerking off to internet porn?
NO WAY! Not if your goal is to have more sex. When you truly start to care MORE about what it is you want & aggressively pursuing THAT, you stop really caring about what other people think. This is where true power comes from my friends.
It’s the same with making money. If your goal is to start a business, are you going to let your girlfriend or her mom pressure you into spending your time taking them to get their nails done? Are you going to keep having trouble waking up early to get shit done? Are you going to let your broke friends keep telling you that your idea is stupid?
FUCK NO! You’re going to get your ass up out of bed early & bust it in your free time finding a way to make that shit work. You’re going to AGGRESSIVELY pursue your goal & by doing so, other people’s opinions cease to matter. Again, power.
When you make a goal of getting those six pack abs, and that is TRULY your goal, are you going to be bothered with the birthday cake your fat ass co-workers are munching down in the break room? Are you going to be skipping workouts because you’re “too tired?” Are you going to listen to the fat fuck that tells you low carb is bad for your cholesterol?
HELL NO! You’re going to bust your nuts with laser like focus in the gym. You’re going to easily pass up junk food when you’re out socializing, regardless of how much shit your friends try to give you.
Nothing else matters to you as much as accomplishing your goal because deep down inside, you know this is the road to happiness for you. This is what you want to do! Everyone else’s opinions & comments become something you laugh about under your breath.
This post is running a little long, but there’s one more important point I want to touch on. We need to consider the source of the “social pressure” we fear so much. Where does this come from.
Well, put simply, it comes from other people. Very, very AVERAGE people. When you stop for a minute, & really think about who these people are, you’re going to be kicking yourself in the face for ever giving two shits what they thought in the first place. The AVERAGE man is:
- Fat as fuck
- Broke as fuck
- Doesn’t get laid
- Is dominated by his bitchy wife or girlfriend
- Has ZERO freedom to do what he enjoys
- Works at a job he hates
- Has no idea what he wants in life
- Has no idea how to go about getting what he wants in life
- Can’t lift his own body weight
- Gets out of breath tying his shoes
Why in the name of all that is holy would we EVER care what AVERAGE dude thinks of us?
Bottom Line: Focus on doing what YOU truly want, & the rest will take care of itself.
Until then, here’s to being THE MAN!